Parents: Is Your Teen College Ready?

Raising Confidence, Living Authentically: Shellee Howard in Conversation with Christina Lecuyer

Episode Summary

In this engaging podcast episode, Shellee welcomes Christina Lecuyer, a personal development coach formerly known as a professional golfer. Christina shares her journey, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and self-acceptance. At 18, she experienced a dual transformation of increased talent in golf and societal beauty standards, leading to a false sense of happiness reliant on external validation. After a decade plagued by an eating disorder and overwhelming dissatisfaction, she embarked on a path of self-discovery and personal development. Christina now helps high achievers navigate feelings of overwhelm and lack of fulfillment, using her model of decision, faith, and action as a foundational framework for achieving personal and professional success. She emphasizes the role of parents in modeling behavior for their children and suggests that striking a balance between allowing kids to face challenges and providing guidance is crucial for nurturing resilience and confidence. Additionally, Christina discusses the impact of social media, advocating for authenticity and limited screen time to promote genuine human connections. Highlights 🎤 Christina’s Journey: A former professional golfer, she turned her life around after struggling with external validation and an eating disorder. 🌟 Authenticity and Acceptance: Her brand revolves around the message of being true to oneself and embracing individuality. 🎯 Formula for Success: Christina’s approach emphasizes decision-making, faith, and action as key elements to personal growth and achievement. 📱 Social Media’s Role: The importance of moderating social media exposure for both parents and teens to maintain mental well-being. 💪 Building Confidence in Kids: Encouraging children to face challenges fosters resilience, self-trust, and confidence. 🤝 Modeling Behavior: Parents should exemplify behavior that they want their children to adopt, reinforcing positive habits through their own actions. 🚀 Support for Parents: Christina offers insights on how parents can best support their introspective or reserved children to step into their confidence. Key Insights 🏌️‍♀️ Struggles of External Validation: Christina Lecuyer’s past experience illustrates how external validation can lead to personal dissatisfaction. Many individuals, particularly adolescents, may become overly focused on social status, beauty, and achievement, leading to detrimental effects on mental health. This serves as a reminder for parents and guardians to encourage genuine self-worth that comes from within, rather than societal measures. 🎉 Power of Decision: Christina’s philosophy emphasizes that life transformations start with making conscious decisions. Parents can model decision-making behavior for their children, showing how to take responsibility for one’s choices in various situations, thus empowering children to navigate their own futures confidently. 📉 Challenges of Modern Parenting: Christina addresses the modern complexities that come with digital exposure. Children today face unprecedented levels of stress due to the prevalent culture of comparison fueled by social media. By limiting screen time and encouraging offline engagement, parents can help their children cultivate a healthier self-image. 🌱 Growth through Struggles: Christina advocates for the benefits of letting children face difficulties. Struggle is often the precursor to resilience and growth; parents should be cautious about stepping in too quickly without allowing their children the space to learn from their failures. 🎓 Awareness of Role Models: As parents navigate their own challenges, they must remember that their actions significantly influence their children’s behavioral patterns. Parents should model self-care and effective coping strategies, demonstrating that prioritizing personal well-being isn’t selfish but essential. 💡 Reprogramming Negative Beliefs: Christina highlights the power of identifying and changing detrimental narratives one may have internalized from childhood. Teaching children how to challenge these narratives can lead to healthier thinking patterns and enhance their self-esteem. 🔄 Continuous Learning: The discussion suggests that just as Christina has transformed her life by committing to her own growth, parents should remain open to learning and evolving themselves. This journey not only benefits them but also sets a powerful example for their children, creating a supportive environment for lifelong growth.

Episode Notes

Decision • Faith • Action  

“Everything is a matter of decision.”  

Christina’s core formula: make a choice, take massive action, and trust something greater.

 

From Pro Golfer to Mindset Coach  

Former five-time All-American golfer battled eating disorders and suicidal thoughts despite external success.  

Built a mission to help others “be yourself” and escape the validation trap.

 

Social Media: Highlight Reel vs. Reality  

Encourages authenticity over perfection.  

Advises limiting screen time and engaging in real-life activities for fulfillment.

 

Confidence Is a Muscle  

Teens are more resilient than assumed.  

Self-trust grows by facing challenges and embracing failure as “just a lesson.”

 

Align Kids with Their Passions  

Listen to what children genuinely enjoy instead of imposing parental expectations.  

Support them in activities—art, sports, STEM—that build competence and self-worth.

 

Reprogramming Stories & Habits  

Brain = computer; to change results, rewrite old patterns (e.g., money mindset).  

Identify the “thing under the thing” and replace limiting beliefs with empowering ones.

 

Habits Caught, Not Taught  

Parents’ behaviors shape kids more than words.  

Model self-care: family meals with no-phone zones, shared hobbies, and visible self-improvement.

 

Working with Christina  

One-on-one coaching (max. 30 clients).  

Free clarity calls via Instagram @bchristina or text 501-222-3362.

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Email: shellee@collegereadyplan.com

 

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